The Migratory Mourning: The Wound You Never Closed #

The grief that society didn't allow you to mourn #

I need you to stop for a moment. Take a deep breath. And let me ask you something that maybe no one has asked you in years:

**Have you ever been given permission to mourn all that you lost when you migrated?

I'm not just talking about crying a little on the plane. I'm talking about real, deep, healing grief. The kind of grieving that allows you to let go and move on.

Probably not. Because when you migrated, everyone expected you to be strong. That you would "go for it." To "seize the opportunity." That you wouldn't "waste the sacrifice."

So you kept your pain deep in your chest. And it's still there, growing, festering, poisoning every area of your life.

The multiple migratory grief: what you really lost #

Dr. Joseba Achotegui, a Spanish psychiatrist and pioneer in the study of migratory grief, identified something revolutionary: when you migrate, you don't lose just one thing. You lose multiple dimensions of your being simultaneously.

Let me name each of these losses, because the first step to healing is seeing and recognizing what you lost:.

1. The loss of your entire tongue 🗣️ #

It's not just learning another language. It's losing:

• The sayings your grandmother taught you.
• The jokes that only work in your language
• The emotional overtones that don't translate
• The part of you that thinks and feels in your native language

I speak English, but I dream in Spanish. And there are things my heart can only say in the language of my childhood. " * "I speak English, but I dream in Spanish.

2. The loss of your social status 👔 #

Love, this hurts deeply:

• Over there you were an engineer, a doctor, a teacher... here you "just" clean houses.
• Over there you had recognition... here you are invisible
• Over there your title mattered... here it's "not valid"... here you're invisible.
• There you were somebody... here you have to prove your worth every day

3. The loss of your habits and rituals 🎉 #

The little things that ordered your life:

• The posadas in December
• Sundays with the extended family
• The day of the dead at the cemetery
• The patron saint festivities of your town
• Afternoon coffee with the "comadres" (the women from your town)

These rituals were not "just traditions." **They were the glue that held your identity together.

4. The loss of your affections 💕 #

This is the one that hurts the most:

• Your mother growing old without you.
• Your children growing up with grandma "just for a while" that went on forever.
• Your best friend who no longer knows you like she used to
• The hugs you can't give
• The deaths you couldn't go to

The loss of your emotional landscape 🌄 6. #

The sensory anchors of your identity:

• The smell of rain on your land
• The sound of the church bells.
• The taste of the water in your village
• The colors of the sunset
• The heat or the cold that your body knew

The loss of your belonging 🏠 6. #

The feeling of "this is my place":

• Knowing every street without GPS.
• Greeting neighbors by name
• Knowing exactly where to get what you need
• Being part of the social fabric
• Having visible history in that place

💭 DO YOU SEE NOW WHY IT'S SO HARD TO "GET OVER IT"? #

**It's not that you're weak. It's not that you didn't try. It's that you lost six fundamental dimensions of your being at the same time.

And no one gave you permission to mourn them.

If you've been feeling that emptiness for years, that longing that won't go away, that pain that others don't understand.... you're not overreacting. **You are experiencing multiple unprocessed grief.

👉 Schedule your Migratory Grief Closing Session - It's time to honor what you lost

Fragmentation of the soul: when parts of you were left behind. #

Franz Ruppert, a pioneer in trauma and family constellations, discovered something fundamental: when we experience trauma, the self fragments. Parts of us "freeze" in the moment of pain to protect ourselves.

This is what happened to your soul when you migrated: #

• One part of you stayed at the airport saying goodbye to your mother.
• Another part froze the day you crossed the border in fear.
• Yet another remains in your childhood home
• And another is still walking the streets of your village

That's why you feel that: #

❌ You are not complete anywhere.
❌ You're always missing something you can't name.
❌ There's a hole in your chest that nothing fills.
❌ You're here but your heart is still there.

Love, this is not madness. It is fragmentation of the soul. And it's completely healable.

Example of a constellation: when the soul asks to return. #

Let me tell you something that happens constantly in my family constellation therapy sessions:

I place a representative of the migrant client in the space. And without anyone telling him/her anything, without prior information, the representative starts to:

• Constantly look backwards
• Turn towards the door
• Take steps backwards
• Stare blankly "over there".

Do you know what the representative is showing?

The interrupted movement of the soul. The part that remains anchored to the place of origin. ** The part that remains anchored to the place of origin.

And when finally, in the constellation, we give that part permission to:

• Look back with love
• Honor what it left behind
• To be grateful for its roots
• And THEN to look forward with its whole being....

The representative takes a deep breath. His shoulders relax. And for the first time in the session, he can be fully present HERE.

**That is the moment when the soul is reunified.

🌟 DO YOU FEEL THAT A PART OF YOU WAS LEFT BEHIND? #

**Do you constantly dream of your homeland? Is your body here but your heart there? Do you feel like you never really got there?

You don't need to physically return to your country to close this mourning. You can do it from where you are, with the sacred tools of family constellations.

👉 Recover the Fragments of Your Soul - Reintegration Session

The signs that your migratory grief is still open #

Love, answer honestly:

• ✓ Do you cry when you listen to music from your country?
• ✓ Do you feel guilt every time you do well?
• ✓ Do you find it hard to enjoy yourself without thinking about those who stayed behind?
• ✓ Do you have depression that doctors can't explain?
• ✓ Do you feel like a part of you is still "over there"?
• ✓ Are your relationships complicated because you "can't fully commit"?
• ✓ Do you constantly dream about your home country?

If you answered yes to three or more, your migratory grief needs to be healed. **If you answered yes to three or more, your migratory grief needs to be healed.

And my heart, I have beautiful news for you: **you don't need to physically return to your country to close this grief. You can do it from where you are.

Resources for your healing #

📹 recommended videos from my channel:

• How to Heal Migratory Grief with Family Constellation
• Recovering Soul Fragments
• The Ulysses Syndrome in Migrants

📖 Read also in the blog:

• Why Your Migration Pain Is in Your DNA
• The Link to the Roots: What We Left Behind](#)
• The 5 Most Common Migrant Roadblocks](#)

Your next step #

**How many more years are you going to carry a grief you never closed?

Every day that goes by without processing this grief is one less day of living a full life. One less day of being fully present with your children. One day less of enjoying what you built with so much sacrifice.

You don't have to keep living like this.

👉 Close Your Migratory Grief - Schedule Your Session Now

**About the Lion Method

In my sessions of Healing for Migrants, I work specifically with:

• Multiple migratory grief
• The recovery of soul fragments
• The closing of pending cycles
• The reintegration of your whole self

All from a sacred space that honors both your pain and your courage.

Key words: migratory grief, soul fragmentation, family constellations, Joseba Achotegui, Ulysses syndrome, ambiguous loss, family constellation therapy near me, Franz Ruppert, soul recovery.

*Have you managed to close your migratory grief or do you still feel that open wound? Share your experience in the comments.