I'm Being Just Like My Mother

I'm Being Just Like My Mother": The Healing Path that No One Taught You
Understanding, integrating and healing the bond with mom from a systemic and transgenerational perspective.

The hidden conflict that holds you back... even when you think you've overcome it... #

Have you ever heard yourself say:

"I'll never be like my mom."
"I don't want to repeat her story."
"I can't stand what I inherited from her"?

And without realizing it, years later... there you are: repeating her words, reacting like her, making similar decisions, living the same patterns.

This phenomenon is not accidental. From the point of view of family constellations and psychogenealogy, what is not resolved, is repeated. What is not honored, is inherited. And what is rejected... becomes destiny.

The unconscious rejection of mother #

When we reject our mother - whether through grief, abandonment, judgment or emotional distance - we are also rejecting the channel through which life came to us.

As Bert Hellinger, creator of family constellations, points out, "We are also rejecting the channel through which life came to us:

"The mother represents the first great love. And to take her to heart is to take life itself."

From a systemic perspective, she is our direct link to life energy, prosperity, love and identity. And when that link is damaged or blocked, we see it reflected in key areas of our lives:

Failed or dependent relationships.

Constant self-sabotage

Insecurity and low self-esteem

Economic difficulties or professional stagnation

Feeling of emptiness or disconnection from life

According to Brigitte Champetier de Ribes, rejecting the mother is one of the main reasons why people fail to move forward, as this rejection disorganizes the family system and cuts off access to emotional and material well-being.

The solution: Taking mother from the soul #

"Taking mother" does not mean idealizing her or denying the pain you may have experienced.
It means recognizing her place, accepting her destiny, letting go of expectations and embracing her with all that she was... and all that she could not be.

This inner movement is one of the most powerful within transgenerational healing.

And it is also one of the most resisted, because it involves moving deep layers of invisible loyalties, emotional wounds and inherited traumas.

But once you do it, your life begins to open up.

Benefits of healing the bond with mom #

The effects of taking your mother consciously are manifold and transformative. Among them:

✅ You reconnect with your vital energy and creativity.
✅ You strengthen your self-esteem and inner security.
✅ You break cycles of unconscious family repetitions.
✅ You improve your relationship with money, work and success.
✅ You open yourself to healthy love and mature relationships.
✅ You release accumulated guilt, judgment and resentment.

In Hellinger's words:

"When we take our mother, everything that once seemed impossible becomes possible. "

🧠 Science and the soul: perspectives that support this process. #

This work is not only supported by therapeutic expertise. From epigenetics, we know that unresolved trauma is transmitted from generation to generation. Studies in transpersonal, attachment and systemic psychology show how the maternal bond is the foundation on which our emotions, beliefs and key decisions are built in adult life.

• John Bowlby, creator of attachment theory, already spoke of the structuring role of the mother in the child's psyche.

• Anne Ancelin Schützenberger's psychogenealogy explores how unresolved family histories repeat themselves in life cycles.

• Modern neuroscience also confirms that our neural connections are marked by the type of bond we established with our mother figure.

Healing Mom, then, is not just an emotional issue. It is an integral reconfiguration of your identity.

Practical exercises to take your mother from the heart #

1️⃣ Reconciliation Visualization

Close your eyes, take a deep breath and visualize your mother in front of you.
Say to her internally:

"I see you as my mother. I take you as you are. Thank you for giving me life."

Feel the energy flow from her to you. That is the force of life.

2️⃣ Ancestral Gratitude Ritual

Create an altar with a picture or symbol of your mother. Light a white candle and say:

"Thank you, Mom. For life, for your story, for your sacrifices, for your strength. Even though I didn't always know how to receive it, today I recognize all that you gave me."

3️⃣ Emotional Release Letter

Write from the heart. Express what you could never say. Free yourself from the weight of demands or silence. Then, you can burn it as a symbolic act or read it in front of an altar.
4️⃣ Feminine Lineage Meditation

Imagine your mother behind you. Behind her, your grandmother. Then your great-grandmother, and so on. Repeat:

"Thanks to you, today I am here. I take your strength and your love. I honor your destinies and go on my way."

🔮 Are you ready to heal your feminine lineage and take your place in life?

Healing your relationship with mom is one of the master keys to emotional wellness, abundance and purpose.
It's looking squarely at your story without judgment and transforming it into a vital impulse.

💬 If this text resonated with you, it's because your soul is ready for a change.
💠 I invite you to schedule a family constellation session with me.
Together, we can:

Identify the invisible loyalties that hold you back.

Release inherited patterns you no longer need

Reconciling with your maternal lineage from love

🌿 Healing mom is, in essence, healing your life.

📩 Book your session now and take the first step towards your transformation.