From Guilt to Gratitude: How Honoring Your Migrant Ancestors Heals Your Life

Published October 30, 2025

From Guilt to Gratitude: How Honoring Your Migrant Ancestors Heals Your Life

From Guilt to Gratitude: Healing your Migrant Lineage

Acknowledgment and honor restore the flow of love and life

My love, let me ask you something:

Have you ever felt guilty for being well?

Guilty for succeeding while your family in your home country struggles?

Guilty for enjoying your life when you know your parents sacrificed theirs?

Guilty of earning in a month what your mother earns in a year?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions....

**You are not crazy. You are not selfish. You are not wrong.

You are experiencing what systemic psychology calls "survivor guilt " and "invisible loyalties ".

And today, we're going to transform that guilt into something that can change your life:

healing gratitude.


📑 INDEX

Survivor's guilt: why you feel bad when you're doing well](#guilt) 2.
2. The invisible loyalties that keep you tied down
3. Why "putting your heart into it" is not enough without healing your lineage
4. Bert Hellinger's movement: from guilt to gratitude
5. The Hellingerian phrases that transform your life
6. How a lineage healing session works
7. Testimonies: when gratitude liberates
8. The honoring ritual you can do today
9. Begin your liberation process


1. SURVIVOR'S GUILT: WHY YOU FEEL BAD WHEN YOU'RE DOING WELL.

"I survived when others couldn't..... do i have a right to be happy? "

During my years in Europe, I worked with war survivors, refugees, and economic migrants.

And I discovered a pattern that kept repeating itself over and over and over again:

**The more successful they were, the worse they felt.


Roberto's story that changed my understanding.

Roberto, 45 years old, Colombian in Spain.

He arrived at the age of 20 with a suitcase and $200 in his pocket.

20 years later:

  • Owner of 3 successful restaurants.
  • House in the outskirts of Madrid
  • Children in private universities
  • Financially stable

But he came to see me because:

❌ He couldn't enjoy his success.
❌ Every time he made money, he became depressed.
❌ Recurrent financial sabotage.
❌ Severe anxiety before closing large deals.
❌ Obsessive thoughts: "I don't deserve this ".

In her first session, I asked her:

"Roberto, who in your family didn't make it? "

He was silent. And then... he cried for 30 minutes.

My brother. He stayed in Colombia. He worked as hard as I did. But he never had a chance. He died 5 years ago without having achieved anything. " * "My brother.

**There was the knot.

Roberto felt that he had no right to prosper if his brother did not prosper.


Survivor's guilt according to transpersonal psychology.

Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, identified this phenomenon:

  • "Survivor guilt is the feeling that one does not deserve to be alive, or to be well, when others died or suffered. It is a form of loyalty to those who are no longer there. " * *"Survivor guilt is the feeling that one does not deserve to be alive or well when others died or suffered.

Stanislav Grof, in the course of his work with non-ordinary states of consciousness, discovered:

  • "This guilt is not only psychological. It is encoded in the morphogenetic field of the family. The survivor unconsciously feels that he must 'pay' for his survival. " * Stanislav Grof*, during his work with non-ordinary states of consciousness.

And for the migrant, this is multiplied because:

  1. You survived (you managed to migrate when others could not).
  2. You are doing well (while your family struggles).
  3. You have opportunities (that they never had).

Then your unconscious family system says:

*"You don't deserve to be better off than they are. You must suffer in loyalty.


The 5 ways in which survivor's guilt manifests itself:** ** The 5 ways in which survivor's guilt manifests itself: **

1. FINANCIAL SELF-SABOTAGE

  • Spending money as soon as you earn it
  • Unexplained" bad investments
  • You give money away compulsively
  • Can't save even if you want to

Why: Your unconscious won't let you have more than the ones that stayed.


2. RECURRENT ILLNESS OR ACCIDENTS

  • You get sick just when things are going well
  • Unexplained" accidents
  • Chronic pain that no doctor can solve

Why: Bert Hellinger explains: "When the soul can't be well without guilt, the body pays the price. "* Bert Hellinger explains.


3. REPETITIVE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

  • You attract partners who make you suffer
  • Sabotage healthy relationships
  • You stay in situations that hurt you

Why: Your system believes you don't deserve love or happiness.


4. PARADOXICAL DEPRESSION

  • You feel worse when things are going well
  • Anxiety in the face of success
  • Existential emptiness despite achievements

Why: Mark Wolynn (author of "It Didn't Start with You") explains: "When we prosper while our ancestors could not, we feel we betray them. Depression is an attempt to maintain connection through shared suffering. " Mark Wolynn (author of "It Didn't Start with You.


5. COMPULSIVE NEED TO "GIVE EVERYTHING " **5.

  • You cannot enjoy anything without sharing
  • You feel compelled to "save" everyone
  • Exhaustion from giving more than what you have

Why: You try to atone for guilt by giving, but it's never enough.

📺 See: "Survivor's Guilt in Migrants"


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2. THE INVISIBLE LOYALTIES THAT KEEP YOU BOUND.

"What is not honored consciously, is repeated unconsciously ".

Now let me introduce you to a concept that changed my life and the lives of hundreds of clients:

Invisible Loyalties.


What are invisible loyalties?

Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, Hungarian-American psychiatrist and pioneer in contextual family therapy, defined them:

  • "Invisible loyalties are unconscious commitments we have to our family system. They are like unwritten contracts that dictate how we must live in order to 'belong' to the clan. " * * "Invisible loyalties are unconscious commitments we have to our family system.

For the migrant, these loyalties sound like this:

💔 "If I prosper, I betray those who stayed ".
💔 "I must suffer as they suffered ".
💔 "I can't be happier than my parents "
💔 "If I do well, I'll forget them "
💔 "I must 'pay' for the opportunities I had " 💔 "I must 'pay' for the chances I had "


The 4 most common invisible loyalties in migrants: **

LOYALTY 1: "I CAN'T BE MORE THAN MY PARENTS " **## THE 4 MOST COMMON INVISIBLE LOYALTIES IN MIGRANTS:

Story of Ana, 38 years old - Ecuador → USA: **

*My mother was a maid all her life. She cleaned houses. She broke her back working.

*I finished college. I have an office job. I make good money.

*But every time I think about buying a house... something paralyzes me.

It's like an inner voice says, 'Who do you think you are? Your mother never owned a house. Do you?'" "*It's as if a voice inside is saying, 'Who do you think you are?

The systemic knot: Ana unconsciously feels that if she has more than her mother, she dishonors her.


LOYALTY 2: "I MUST BEAR THE FAMILY SUFFERING ".

Story of Carlos, 42 years old - Venezuela → Florida: **

My family lost everything in Venezuela. My father was an engineer. Now he drives Uber at 70 years old. *"My father was an engineer.

*I'm fine here. But I feel... heavy. Exhausted. Like I'm carrying the world.

*I can't relax. I can't enjoy myself. I always feel like 'I should do more.

The systemic knot: Carlos unconsciously carries the pain of the whole family. He believes that his well-being betrays his suffering.


LOYALTY 3: "IF I FORGET MY LAND, I BETRAY MY DEAD ".

María's story, 50 years old - Guatemala → California:** **

*My sister died in Guatemala 10 years ago. I was never able to return for the funeral.

*Since then, every time I feel happy here... I am overcome with an overwhelming sadness.

It's as if to feel joy is to betray her memory.

The systemic knot: Maria believes that she must remain in perpetual mourning to honor her sister.


LOYALTY 4: "I MUST SACRIFICE MYSELF AS MY ANCESTORS SACRIFICED THEMSELVES ".

Story of José, 35 years old - Mexico → Texas (second generation): **

My grandparents crossed the border on foot. My father worked in the fields since he was 12 years old.* *"My grandparents crossed the border on foot.

*I was born here. I studied. I have a comfortable job in technology.

But I feel... fake. Like an imposter. As if I don't deserve to have it 'easy.'" *

The systemic knot: Joseph feels he must suffer as his ancestors suffered to be "worthy" of the lineage.


Why are these loyalties so powerful?

Anne Ancelin Schützenberger, a French psychoanalyst and pioneer in psychogenealogy, explains:

  • "Invisible loyalties operate at the level of the family unconscious. They are stronger than your conscious will. That's why you can 'want' to thrive but unconsciously sabotage yourself. " * * "Invisible loyalties operate at the level of the unconscious family.

Bert Hellinger calls it "blind love ":

  • "The child unconsciously says, 'I'd rather suffer (or die, or fail) myself, than have you, mom/dad/family, do it.' It is a deep, but blind love. He doesn't see that this sacrifice doesn't help anyone. " * *"He doesn't see that this sacrifice doesn't help anyone.

📺 Watch: "Invisible Loyalties in Migrant Families"


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3. WHY "GIVING IT A TRY" IS NOT ENOUGH WITHOUT HEALING THE LINEAGE.

"It's not a lack of effort. It's a systemic conflict. "

My love, you've been told all your life:

"Give it your best shot "

  • "Work harder "*
    "Think positive "
    "Visualize your success "

And you've tried. God knows you've tried.

But something always goes wrong. Just when you're close to success...

  • An "accident" ruins everything
  • You make an "unexplainable" self-destructive decision.
  • You get sick
  • You miss the opportunity
  • Sabotage relationship/job/project

**And you blame yourself.

*I have no discipline
"Something is wrong with me " "I'm not enough "
"I'm not enough " "I'm not enough "

But love, let me tell you the truth:

**It's not your fault. It's a systemic conflict.


The difference between personal work and systemic work.

  • Cognitive psychology:** Change your thoughts
  • Humanistic psychology:** Upgrade your potential
  • Psychoanalysis:** Resolve internal conflicts

All useful. All valuable.

**But all insufficient for the migrant's trauma.

Why?

Because these approaches work only with your individual psyche.

But your problem is not only individual.

**It is systemic.


Bert Hellinger's revolution.

Bert Hellinger, German theologian and philosopher, discovered it by working with families:

  • *"Individual problems often have systemic roots. The person is entangled in family dynamics that precede him or her. It is not enough to work with the individual. We must work with the system.

And Stanislav Grof, from transpersonal psychology, added:

  • "The unconscious is not only personal (as Freud believed). There is a family and collective unconscious. Until we heal at that level, the symptoms will return. " * *"Until we heal at that level, the symptoms will return.

This is especially true for migrants because:** ** "The unconscious is not only personal (as Freud believed).

  1. Your family system is fragmented (part here, part there).
  2. There is unresolved grief (separations, deaths, losses).
  3. There is active guilt (survivor, betrayal, abandonment).
  4. There are invisible loyalties (unconscious contracts of suffering).

Then you can:

  • Read all the self-help books
  • Do positive affirmations
  • Work 80 hours a week
  • Go to cognitive therapy for years

**But if the systemic knot is not untied, you will be back in the same place.


Roberto's case (continued)

Remember Roberto, the restaurant owner who sabotaged his success.

He worked 2 years in cognitive therapy.
Learned anxiety management techniques.
Did mindfulness.
Read personal development books.

**Nothing changed.

Until we did a family constellation.

In the session, I put someone representing their deceased sibling.

Roberto looked at him. And the representative (without knowing anything about the story) said spontaneously:

"Brother, you don't need to die for me. I am already at peace. You live. " * "Brother, you need not die for me.

Roberto fell to his knees. He cried as he had not cried in decades.

And in that moment, the knot came undone.

3 months later, he closed the biggest deal of his life. No sabotage. No anxiety.

Because he had finally received his brother's permission to prosper.

**That's systemic work.

📺 Watch: "Individual vs. Systemic Work"


4. THE BERT HELLINGER MOVEMENT: FROM GUILT TO GRATITUDE.

"Acknowledgment transforms suffering into strength "

Now we come to the heart of healing.

The movement that Bert Hellinger identified as the most powerful for healing lineages:

Moving from blind guilt to conscious gratitude.


The 3 Hellingerian principles for healing the migrant lineage:** **## The 3 Hellingerian principles for healing the migrant lineage:

PRINCIPLE 1: HONOR WHAT WAS

Your ancestors did what they could with what they had.

Your great-grandfather who migrated with nothing.
Your grandmother who became a widow.
Your father who worked until he broke.
Your mother who wept in silence.

**They don't need you to save them.
**They don't need you to suffer for them.

What they need is:

**You to see them.
**Honor them.
**That you take the life they gave you and live it to the fullest.

Bert Hellinger puts it this way:

  • "The child honors the parents not by suffering as they suffered, but by taking the life they gave him and doing something great with it. " * Bert Hellinger* expresses it.

PRINCIPLE 2: LETTING GO OF BLIND LOVE PRINCIPLE 2: LETTING GO OF BLIND LOVE PRINCIPLE 3: LETTING GO OF BLIND LOVE

"Blind love " is when we unconsciously say:

"I'd rather suffer (or die, or fail) myself, than have you do it. "* ** "Blind love " is when we unconsciously say.

It is a deep love. But it doesn't help anyone.

Your suffering does not alleviate the suffering of your ancestors.
Your failure does not redeem their sacrifices.
Your guilt does not bring them peace.

Hellinger teaches:

  • "Mature love says, 'I take what you gave me, with all it cost. And I honor it by living fully, not by dying with you.'" * Hellinger* teaches.

PRINCIPLE 3: TAKING THE STRENGTH OF LINEAGE

Your ancestors didn't just leave you pain.

They left you STRENGTH.

The strength to:

  • Surviving wars
  • Crossing borders
  • Starting from scratch
  • Resisting discrimination
  • Moving forward when all seemed lost

**That strength lives in you

And when you take it consciously, everything changes.

Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy calls it "taking the positive legacy":

"Every family has a 'merit book'. It contains not only the debts, but also the resources, the strength, the love that was passed on. When we consciously take that positive legacy, we free ourselves from the negative. " * *"Every family has a 'merit book.


The transformative movement

In family constellations, this movement is expressed as follows:

This simple but profound movement can change your life in minutes.

[📺 Watch: "The Movement of Gratitude in Constellations"](https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJSdPEgFOtfhjOsYe7I2Nie63uuwtthvh&si=ZTqO0jCNfs7I02ru


5. HELLINGERIAN PHRASES THAT TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE.

"When the soul hears the right words, something is released ".

During my various trainings in Family Constellations I learned that in family constellations, words have power.

Not just any words. **Just the right words that your soul needs to hear.

Bert Hellinger spent decades identifying these phrases. He called them **"healing phrases.

Here are the most powerful ones for healing your migrant lineage:


TO HONOR YOUR ANCESTORS WHO MIGRATED:** **

💚 "Dear grandparents/great-grandparents, you migrated in soul so that I could migrate in body. Thank you. "

💚 "You paved the way. I walk it with honor. "

💚 "Your sacrifice was not in vain. I honor it by living it to the fullest. " 💚 "I honor it by living it to the fullest. "

💚 "I take the strength that was given to me. And I carry it forward. " 💚


TO RELEASE THE SURVIVOR'S GUILT:

💙 "Dear brother/cousin/uncle who couldn't come, I take the chances you didn't have. And I carry you in my heart. "

💙 "My prosperity does not betray you. It honors you. " 💙 *"My prosperity does not betray you.

💙 "I live for both of us. And every success is also yours. "

💙 "I don't need to suffer anymore to keep you close. "


TO HONOR PARENTS WHO SACRIFICED THEMSELVES:

💜 "Dear parents, I see your sacrifice. I honor it. and I take the life you gave me without wasting it in guilt. " *###.

💜 "You did what you could with what you had. It was enough. "

💜 "I no longer need to carry your pain to love you. " 💜 "I don't need to carry your pain to love you. "

💜 "I love you by honoring your effort with my joy, not my suffering. " 💜 "I love you by honoring your effort with my joy, not my suffering. "


TO TAKE THE STRENGTH OF THE LINEAGE:

❤️ "I take strength from my ancestors. The strength of those who survived wars, famine, loss. "

❤️ "That strength lives in me. And I use it to create, not to destroy myself. " * "I take the strength of my ancestors.

❤️ "I am the result of a thousand survivors. I carry their courage in my blood. " * "I am the result of a thousand survivors.

❤️ "Thank you, ancestors. I continue. I thrive. I live. " "I live. "


TO SET YOUR CHILDREN FREE.

💛 "Dear children, my immigration story is mine. It is not your burden. "

💛 "You are free to be from here, there, both, or neither. I bless you on your way. " *1F49B↩ *"You are free to be from here, there, both, or neither.

💛 "You do not have to carry my longing or my guilt. You are free. " 💛 "You are free. " 💛 *"You are free.

💛 "The pain ends with me. Blessing begins with you. " 💛 "Blessing begins with you. "


Why these phrases work.

Daan van Kampenhout, Dutch constellator and expert in collective trauma, explains:

  • "Hellingerian phrases are not positive affirmations. They are acknowledgements of systemic truths. When the soul hears its truth, the body relaxes, the system reorganizes. " * *"When the soul listens to its truth, the body relaxes, the system reorganizes.

Hunter Beaumont, American constellator, adds:

  • *"These phrases are not for the mind. They are for the field. And the field responds immediately.

In session, I have seen clients say these phrases and:

  • Their physical posture changes (they straighten up).
  • Their breathing deepens
  • Tears of release (not tears of pain)
  • Physical sensation of "weight being lifted".
  • Instant mental clarity

**It is not suggestion. It is systemic reorganization.

📺 Watch: "Healing Phrases for the Migrant Lineage"


6. HOW A LINEAGE HEALING SESSION WORKS.

"From theory to practice: what happens when you do this work ".

I've shared the theory with you. Now let me show you exactly what this process looks like in session.

Instead of giving you a written step-by-step (which doesn't convey the depth of the experience), I want you to see with your own eyes how an online family constellation session works:

📺 How an Online Family Constellation Session Works

In this video you will see:

✨ How the family field is set up from your home.
✨ What kind of objects we use to represent your system.
✨ How invisible dynamics emerge.
✨ Healing movements in action.
✨ The phrases that transform the system.
✨ The energetic before and after of a real client.

Watch it now It will give you total clarity on what to expect.


7. TESTIMONIALS: WHEN GRATITUDE SETS FREE.

Ana, 38 years old - "I bought my house without guilt ".

*For 10 years, every time I thought about buying a house, something paralyzed me.

In the session with Alejandra, I made the movement of honoring my mother. I bowed (symbolically) to her and told her: "I bought my house without guilt "* *"For 10 years, every time I thought about buying a house, something paralyzed me.

Mom, I take the opportunities you didn't have. And I honor you with my success, not with my suffering.' 'And I honor you with my success, not with my suffering.' *.

*I cried. But it wasn't a cry of pain. It was a cry of liberation.

Two months later, I bought my house. No panic. Without sabotage. With peace. " *


Carlos, 42 years old - "I have stopped carrying the pain of Venezuela "**.

*I felt that if I was well, I was betraying my country. To my family. To those who stayed.

In the session, Alejandra guided me to tell my father (symbolically): "I felt that if I was well, I was betraying my country.

Dad, your pain is yours. It is not my burden. I love you without needing to suffer with you.' *'Dad, your pain is yours.

*Something cracked in my chest. It literally felt as if pressure was released.

Now I can enjoy my life without that constant guilt. And strangely enough, I have more energy to help my family when they really need it. " *I can now enjoy my life without that constant guilt.


Maria, 50 years old - "My sister gave me permission ".

*Since my sister died, I felt that to be happy was to betray her.

In the constellation, Alejandra put an object representing my sister.* ** "In the constellation, Alejandra put an object representing my sister.** "In the constellation, Alejandra put an object representing my sister.

*She led me to look at her and say: 'Sister, I take the life that you could no longer live. And I live it also for you.

*And at that moment... I swear I felt her presence. And her blessing.

For the first time in 10 years, I could laugh without guilt the next day. "


José, 35 years old - "I no longer feel like an impostor "**.

*All my life I felt I didn't deserve to 'have it easy' because my grandparents and my father suffered so much.

In the session, I stood in front of them (symbolically) and said: "I don't feel like an impostor anymore.

Grandparents, parents: I take your strength. And I use it to create, not to destroy me. You did not suffer so that I would suffer. You suffered so that I could fly.' *'Grandparents, parents: I take your strength.

Those words... changed me.

Now when I succeed, instead of feeling guilt, I feel gratitude. As if they were proud, not betrayed.' *They were proud.


8. THE HONOR RITUAL YOU CAN DO TODAY.

"A sacred exercise to begin your transformation ".

This ritual is powerful. **Take it seriously.

It is not a "self-help exercise". It is a real systemic movement.


RITUAL: HONORING YOUR MIGRANT ANCESTORS.

You will need:

  • 30 minutes without interruptions
  • Quiet space
  • Candle (optional but recommended)
  • Photos of your ancestors (if you have them)
  • Paper and pen

STEP 1: PREPARATION OF THE SPACE (5 min).

Turn off your phone
2. Sit in a quiet place
3. Light a candle
4. Take 3 deep breaths
5. Say out loud: "I open this space to honor my ancestors ".


**STEP 2: ACKNOWLEDGEMENT (10 min)

Write on the paper the names of:

  • Your great-grandparents (those you know)
  • Your grandparents
  • Your parents
  • Siblings/relatives who have migrated or are left behind

Under each name, write a sentence of what that person survived or sacrificed:

Example:

  • Grandmother Rosa: Crossed the border alone with 3 children.
  • Grandfather Juan: Worked in the fields for 40 years.
  • Aunt Maria: Stayed in Colombia, took care of the family.

STEP 3: TILTING (5 min)** ** STEP 3: TILTING (5 min) **

Stand up.

Look at your photos or the paper with the names.

**Bow physically (like a curtsy).

And say out loud:

💚 "Dear ancestors, I see you. I see your struggle. I see your sacrifice. "

💚 "Thank you for life. Thank you for paving the way for me. "

💚 "I honor you not by suffering as you do, but by living fully. " 💚 "I honor you not by suffering as you do, but by living fully. "

💚 "I take your strength. And I carry it forward. " 💚 *"I take your strength.

Stay bowed until you feel something move in your chest.


STEP 4: GUILT RELEASE (5 min)** **.

Now, stand up straight.

Place your hand on your heart.

And say out loud:

💙 "I release myself from the guilt of being well. ".

💙 "My prosperity does not betray anyone. "

💙 "I take the opportunities that were given to me. " 💙 "I take the opportunities that were given to me. "

💙 "And I use them to honor, not to destroy. " 💙 "And I use them to honor, not to destroy. "

Take a deep breath. Let the tears come if they come.


STEP 5: CLOSING (5 min)** **.

Sit down again.

Write on the paper:

"I, [your name], take the strength of my ancestors. And I use it to... " * "I, [your name], take the strength of my ancestors.

Complete the sentence with what you really want to create in your life.

Keep this paper. It is your commitment to your lineage.

Blow out the candle.

Say aloud: *"Thank you. It is done.


What to expect after the ritual: **

In the following days, you can experiment:

✓ Vivid dreams of ancestors.
✓ Feeling of "weight being lifted."
✓ Clarity about decisions
✓ Meaningful coincidences.
✓ Emerging emotions (let them flow)

**This is a sign that something moved.


BUT THIS RITUAL IS JUST THE BEGINNING... **

For deep lineage healing, you need the space of a professional session where:

✨ I can see the dynamics that you don't see.
✨ Facilitate the specific movements that your system needs.
✨ Hold the space while you process deeper layers.
✨ Reorganize your family system for permanent release.


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9. START YOUR RELEASE PROCESS

* "How many more generations will carry this guilt if you don't heal it now?

My love, think about this:

Your grandparents carried it.
Your parents carried it.
You are carrying it.

**Will your children carry it too?

Or you can be the one to break the cycle.

The one who heals. The one who frees.
The one who says: "Pain ends with me. Blessing begins with me. "


In our lineage healing sessions we will work on:** ** ** "The pain ends with me.

Identifying the invisible loyalties that keep you bound.
Releasing the survivor's guilt that blocks your prosperity.
Honoring your ancestors in a way that strengthens you, not weakens you.
Transforming blind love into conscious love.
Reorganizing your family system so that strength flows to you.
Freeing your children from carrying what is not theirs to carry.

All from the comfort of your home, in deep and transformative online sessions.


👉 Schedule Your Migrant Lineage Healing Session


About the Lion Method of Psycho-Shamanic Healing **[About Lion Method of Psycho-Shamanic Healing

This integrated approach allows me to work on all levels:

  • Mental (understanding)
  • Emotional (liberation)
  • Systemic (reorganization)
  • Transpersonal (connection with something greater)
  • Ancestral (lineage honor and strength)

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Keywords: family constellations near me, constellation therapy near me, family constellations, survivor guilt, invisible loyalties, Bert Hellinger, Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, healing gratitude, lineage healing, blind love, transgenerational trauma


*Do you recognize any of these invisible loyalties in your life? Which one resonates most with you? Share in the comments - your story may illuminate the path for others.

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This was my second session with Alejandra and as the last one was, it was transformative! I am excited to see the positive changes it will make in my life as the last one did. This was my second session with Alejandra and as the last one was, it was transformative! I am excited to see the positive changes it will make in my life as the last one did. Thank you Alejandra!

Maureen R. USA

Amazing deep healing... feel like entire planets and constellations are moving right now. She is worth having a session with and discovering this deep river of healing love. Amazing deep healing: the place within that never was able to move never was clear never had a voice: all was opened up, revealed and spoken with in the healing space Alejandra creates and opens. She is very sweet and safe to share with and very focused on the work and healing that needs to be addressed here and now no matter how back in the generations the issues are located. She is very patient and deeply into feelings: she gave me time to really deeply feel inside and all the places shapes and forms those feelings are within me. She assisted me in speaking more clearly with myself. She gave me many suggestions for integration and deeper embrace of the work done in session. i feel very complete and very supported and free to return to her for more work if I choose to. I am gonna choose. All the power in my life is mine to choose and direct and show up in. It was fun, tender, deeply healing; feel like entire planets and constellations are moving right now. It will take some time for what was done in such a short time to move and dance and reveal. Again, I feel supported and safe and clear in the process I am in. I am grateful for Alejandra. My experience is she is worth having a session with and discovering this deep river of healing love that she offers.

Tigres USA

I was reassured from the very first session that she was the right person to help me... I'll be forever thankful. I'm so thankful for having found Alejandra and have her guide me through my journey to healing. Having had unpleasant and unhelpful experiences with therapy and psychoanalysis before, I was reassured from the very first session that she was the right person to help me get control over my anxiety, overcome childhood trauma and connect with spirituality. I have been able to find a way to forgive and love myself and with this love all those around me. She helped me rebuild self confidence that have made a big difference in my personal and professional life. I know feel like I have the tools to deal with life's difficulties and find enjoyment in every day. I'll be forever thankful.

Lorena D. USA

Alejandra is much more than a therapist: she's a true guide and a light on my journey toward acceptance and personal growth. Alejandra is much more than a therapist: she's a true guide and a light on my journey toward acceptance and personal growth. I've worked with her on many aspects of my life, and thanks to her support, I'm beginning to achieve dreams that once seemed impossible. She listens with empathy, delves deeply without judgment, knows how to guide you where you need to go, and you feel she truly cares. I'll never tire of thanking her for her presence in my life.

Ana R. USA

My session with Alejandra was amazing... I felt relief and peace and new realizations came to me during and after the session. My session with Alejandra was amazing. She was able to tune in deeply into our family constellation and bring up some very important insights. I felt relief and peace and new realizations came to me during and after the session.

Svemir B. USA

Alexandra led me through a family constellation and she did it with insight, skill, simplicity and love... I recommend your work to anyone seeking clarity. Alexandra led me through a family constellation and she did it with insight, skill, simplicity and love. Thank you for shedding further light on my situation, Alexandra, it's been very helpful to me. I recommend your work to anyone seeking clarity.

Pearl Y. USA

I will always be grateful for her dedication since there were days that it was challenging to speak and she had the patience and the right words. It took me years to find someone that I can trust about my personal life. I tried different therapists that only wanted to give me medication for my anxiety during the first session. However, Alejandra never give up on me and I was able to open myself about my childhood problems that I carried my whole life. I speak Spanish and English, but when I tried talking about my childhood in English, it was hard to express myself and finding someone that can speak Spanish was plus in my journey. I will always be grateful for her dedication since there were days that it was challenging to speak and she had the patience and the right words.

Angelica Y. USA

I've found each session to be profoundly moving... The time and experience has felt sacred to me. I've attended 3 sessions with Alejandra and Jay. I've found each session to be profoundly moving in a unique way. The time and experience has felt sacred to me, and that would not be possible without the care and supportive attention of the facilitators. I would recommend them to anyone interested in growth and prepared for a challenge.

Trevor K. USA

Alejandra really taps into the Energy... You will feel a lot lighter in your Being. Alejandra really taps into the Energy of the room and I felt it was a safe place to release and resolve past family issues. Would highly recommend anyone to try her services. You will feel a lot lighter in your Being. Infinite Gratitude

Harry W. USA

I find Family Constellations Therapy an astounding modality... I felt they created a highly warm, caring, and safe container. Let's face it, meeting our challenges head on and create change in our life is not always an easy task. Nor is the direction always clear and comfortable. To gain more insights and discover the root cause of issues there's a way. Throughout the years, I have involved myself in many healing practices. I wanted to live a life that I could thrive in rather than survive in. I find Family Constellations Therapy an astounding modality for this. It has really assisted me to dive deep within myself. I have created more understanding, peace, love, balance, and harmony in my life with a way that I feel is efficient, has grace, dignity, empathy, and compassion. My experience with Jay and Ale was very positive. I felt they created a highly warm, caring, and safe container to do the work needed. I found them to be extremely passionate and excellent teachers and guides with this process. I look forward to experiencing more Family Constellations Therapy Workshops with them. Here's to being unlimited!

Bekki S. USA