Family Constellations. I want independence

Yesterday, the last work session was about Independence, that scenario that is so desired and at the same time so feared.

Yes, I want to be great, independent, autonomous, etc; but doing so scares me because of all that I can lose, because of the risk it implies.

What is the worst that can happen?

I asked Maria.

And after a barrage of words and a deepening of emotion, she discovered that the great fear behind not becoming independent is the fear of making a mistake.

When she could verbalize it, her face changed.

She was finally able to put words to that which had been hindering her for so long from achieving her dreams and her longed-for freedom.

Maria, it made me think of all the times that we women enter into this scenario, in which we write our lives with such exigency, that it seems that the book of our history cannot have erasures, erasures, erasures, erasures.

That scenario in which I stop acting, I stop doing, I limit myself, I lock myself up.

The fear of failure, of error, of making mistakes is present, it is in our lives, and it is necessary that it be present, but in its right proportion.

It is necessary to renegotiate with ourselves the levels we impose on ourselves, the demands, the perfect life, the perfect woman, the perfect daughter, the perfect wife, the perfect life?

and allow ourselves to be wrong,

use corrector,

rewrite our history,

accept the crossings out, mistakes and learnings in the book of our life.

Thank you for reading, listening and sharing.