Family Constellations: How to draw the family tree?

Why don't I advance in life if I make an effort?

Why don't I find a job even though I try my best?

Why do I repeat the same type of partner over and over again?

Why do I attract people who abandon me?

Why don't I feel fulfilled and happy when I have everything?

These questions are more common than you think. And many times the answer is not in what you do, but in what you inherited without knowing it.

Ancestral healing work - also known as family tree repair or transgenerational healing - can offer us very deep clues about those blockages that we don't understand at first glance.

Through a Holistic Psychology session or Family constellations, we look at the family tree from a transgenerational perspective. Only by acknowledging our past with love, can we build a solid future and inhabit the present with fulfillment.

Each tree is unique. We all share roots, but each story has its emotional charge, its secrets, its wounds... and also its wisdom.

Doing the family tree provides a "photograph" full of information, which allows not only to know the family, but to let yourself feel about the situation that they, the ones from before lived and that somehow influence your history and has to do with you today. So in order to work with Transgenerational, the first thing that we are going to do is to start building your tree, your history, your origins.

How to make the family tree? #

The sense of belonging to the family clan connects us with stories, emotions and patterns that can be repeated from generation to generation.

One of the most commonly used tools is the genogram, a visual scheme where the members of the family system and their relationships are represented.

From the perspective of psychology, there are several ways of symbolizing people (it is a common code for those of us who work in the humanities). An example of this is the following:

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**b=**Wedding Vj= Living together S=Separation D=Divorce #

Family tree and ancestor healing Madrid](/img/genealogical-tree-and-healing-2.webp)

Please note that this is one of the many ways to work with the tree.

If you find the previous version too complicated, there are simpler alternatives to get you started, such as the following:

On the net there are many more, you will find apps, books, etc. that can help you. My recommendation: Start with the simplest, but start._.

Aspects to take into account to elaborate your family tree**. #

• Dates of birth and death, date of marriage, separation, divorce
• Occupations
• Racial, religious conflicts.
• Information on medical, emotional or social issues of the different members (e.g., alcoholism, depression, suicides, illnesses, smoking, diabetes mellitus, bronchial asthma, etc., etc.).
• Critical family events: premature deaths or miscarriages, changes in relationships, losses, bankruptcies, inheritances, migrations, etc.
• Myths, beliefs, customs.
• Repetition of names.
• Replacement children. Adopted children, split families.
• Secrets, everything that is not talked about: war, economic ruin, family secrets, money, sex, inheritance issues, incest, sexual abuse, illegitimate or out-of-wedlock children, rape, injustice, etc.
• Family laws or mandates...

It is a beautiful healing journey and a transpersonal work that requires affection.. #

Tips #

• Do it on a large sheet of paper.
• Do it with a pen, marker.
• Do not erase. Even what we write wrong is telling us something.
• Take your time to elaborate it.
• Write also the qualities of each one. This also brings a lot of information. For example. The enterprising, the angry, the one who always goes broke, shy, etc.
• Let the information come to you.

Remember, there are different techniques to work on healing with the Ancestors** Remember, there are different techniques to work on healing with the Ancestors. #

Transgenerational, energetic and transpersonal**. #

My high Intuitive capacity has allowed me to refine my senses and connection with the energetic world. Thus, beyond reading the family tree, I touch, see and feel the family system, allowing me to reach hidden places in the unconscious to facilitate healing on the physical, energetic and family levels.

I work from the body language, the feelings expressed, as well as my perception and intuition about what the central problem is. My expertise as a psychologist allows me to have a "clinical eye" to see and read the situation from a psychological point of view. And my gifts and intuition allow me to propose systemic movements, ritual and psychomagic exercises; at the same time that we intervene on different levels. With the objective of reaching a healing of the personal and family soul.

Holistic therapy: Transgenerational](/img/arbol-genealogico_-honro-mis-ancestros.webp)