Family Constellations. Healing the Relationship with Mom: Releasing Unconscious Patterns.

Published May 6, 2024

Family Constellations. Healing the Relationship with Mom: Releasing Unconscious Patterns.

    When there is a broken or fractured relationship with Mom from a family constellations perspective, complex dynamics can emerge that profoundly affect our lives and relationships. In family constellations, it is understood that each family member has a place and a role to play within the family system, and any rupture in these relationships can have a significant impact on the overall dynamics of the system.

    The relationship with mom is the foundation of all our relationships, the reflection of our existence since before we were born. In her womb we find the warmth, security and nurturing that allowed us to grow. Through her eyes, we see ourselves and the world around us. Mom represents wholeness, origin, the purest and most unconditional love.

    For women, Mom is the model of femininity, of motherhood, of love. She is the guide that can be replicated or rejected, shaping our own feminine identity. For the man, mom is the first love, the model of womanhood that will guide his choices, his relationships and his understanding of the feminine world.

    When there is a broken or fractured relationship with mom from a family constellations perspective, complex dynamics can emerge that profoundly affect our lives and relationships. In family constellations, it is understood that each family member has a place and a role to play within the family system, and any rupture in these relationships can have a significant impact on the overall dynamics of the system.When the relationship with mom is broken, whether due to unresolved conflicts, past traumas or dysfunctional patterns in the family, various effects can emerge:

    Feelings of abandonment or rejection: A broken relationship with Mom can lead to feelings of abandonment or rejection, which can affect our self-esteem and our ability to establish healthy relationships in the future.

    Repetitive behavior patterns: Unresolved conflicts with mom can lead to repetition of dysfunctional behavior patterns in our own relationships, whether with our partners, children or other family members.

    Blocks in receiving love and abundance: A broken relationship with mom can create blocks in our ability to receive love and abundance in our lives. This can manifest in difficulties in establishing intimate relationships, financial problems or a general sense of dissatisfaction.

    **Invisible loyalties: In family constellations, it is recognized that we often maintain invisible loyalties to our family members, even if the relationship is broken. These loyalties can limit our ability to live our own lives fully and authentically.

    Imbalances in the family system: A broken relationship with Mom can create imbalances in the entire family system, affecting all family members in different ways. These imbalances may manifest in health problems, financial difficulties or interpersonal conflicts.

    In family constellations, we seek to heal these ruptures and restore balance within the family system. Through the exploration of family dynamics and the identification of emotional blockages, we can work to heal the wounds of the past and open the way to healthier relationships and a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

    From the perspective of holistic psychology, we dive into the depths of the family soul to unravel the knots that bind us and find lost peace and harmony. Let me share with you some of the transformative benefits of this process:

    Release from Repetitive Patterns: By exploring our family history and the patterns of behavior that repeat throughout the generations, we can free ourselves from emotional burdens and limiting behaviors that have been affecting our lives without our awareness. For example, a person may discover that he or she repeats dysfunctional relationship patterns in his or her love life that go back to unresolved conflicts in the relationship with his or her mother.

    Reconnecting with Ancestral Wisdom: By healing our relationship with our ancestors, we open ourselves to the wisdom and support of the generations that came before us. This can manifest in a sense of connection to our roots, a deeper understanding of our life purpose and greater clarity in our decisions and actions.

    Healing of Emotional Wounds: Healing with the ancestors and the mother gives us the opportunity to heal the emotional wounds we have carried with us throughout our lives. For example, a person may experience a deep emotional release by forgiving his or her mother for painful events in the past and recognizing that she did the best she could with the resources she had at the time.

    Restoring Family Balance: By working with family dynamics and invisible loyalties, we can help restore balance in the family system. This can have a positive impact on all family members, even those who are deceased. For example, a person may experience an improvement in physical health after healing the relationship with an ancestor who had experienced a similar illness.

    Personal Empowerment: By becoming aware of our family connections and healing relationships with our ancestors and our mother, we become empowered to take control of our lives and create our own destiny. This can manifest in greater self-confidence, an increased ability to set healthy boundaries, and an overall sense of well-being and wholeness.

    Ready to free yourself from the burdens of the past and open up to a future full of possibilities?

    **It's time to begin your healing journey with your mother and receive the abundance you deserve!

    With Alejandra León, you will experience a deep and lasting transformation.

    My unique approach to healing your relationship with your mother will guide you to a new understanding of yourself and your place in the world.

    Don't wait any longer to begin your journey to healing and abundance! Contact us today to schedule your first session

    Your future of love, joy and abundance awaits!

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    The session was absolutely incredible! I was able to heal a very deep wound... Alejandra is absolutely sweet and beautifully grounded. My family constellation session was incredible! I had heard about this kind of modality, but never signed on to receive a session. Well, I've been going deep into my inner work, and it seemed like everywhere I turned I was being nudged to book a session. So I booked, and the session was absolutely incredible! Definitely have your tissues ready! What I loved. The most was some thing that I thought I made peace with showed a completely different side to look at and I was able to heal a very deep wound that really was hurting me personally in my life. Alejandra is absolutely sweet and beautifully grounded. She is so easy to talk to, and is so intuitive. I absolutely loved my session, and highly recommend everyone do so!

    Mariette A. USA

    Family Constellations by Alejandra are the most powerful therapy sessions I've ever had... She is very gifted and she is a gift to the world. Family Constellations by Alejandra are the most powerful therapy sessions I've ever had. She takes you straight to the root cause and the place you have never imagined your problems lie. She is very gifted and she is a gift to the world. I sent many friends her way and every single one them were in awe.

    Laura D. USA

    This was my second session with Alejandra and as the last one was, it was transformative! I am excited to see the positive changes it will make in my life as the last one did. This was my second session with Alejandra and as the last one was, it was transformative! I am excited to see the positive changes it will make in my life as the last one did. Thank you Alejandra!

    Maureen R. USA

    Amazing deep healing... feel like entire planets and constellations are moving right now. She is worth having a session with and discovering this deep river of healing love. Amazing deep healing: the place within that never was able to move never was clear never had a voice: all was opened up, revealed and spoken with in the healing space Alejandra creates and opens. She is very sweet and safe to share with and very focused on the work and healing that needs to be addressed here and now no matter how back in the generations the issues are located. She is very patient and deeply into feelings: she gave me time to really deeply feel inside and all the places shapes and forms those feelings are within me. She assisted me in speaking more clearly with myself. She gave me many suggestions for integration and deeper embrace of the work done in session. i feel very complete and very supported and free to return to her for more work if I choose to. I am gonna choose. All the power in my life is mine to choose and direct and show up in. It was fun, tender, deeply healing; feel like entire planets and constellations are moving right now. It will take some time for what was done in such a short time to move and dance and reveal. Again, I feel supported and safe and clear in the process I am in. I am grateful for Alejandra. My experience is she is worth having a session with and discovering this deep river of healing love that she offers.

    Tigres USA

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    Lorena D. USA

    Alejandra is much more than a therapist: she's a true guide and a light on my journey toward acceptance and personal growth. Alejandra is much more than a therapist: she's a true guide and a light on my journey toward acceptance and personal growth. I've worked with her on many aspects of my life, and thanks to her support, I'm beginning to achieve dreams that once seemed impossible. She listens with empathy, delves deeply without judgment, knows how to guide you where you need to go, and you feel she truly cares. I'll never tire of thanking her for her presence in my life.

    Ana R. USA

    My session with Alejandra was amazing... I felt relief and peace and new realizations came to me during and after the session. My session with Alejandra was amazing. She was able to tune in deeply into our family constellation and bring up some very important insights. I felt relief and peace and new realizations came to me during and after the session.

    Svemir B. USA

    Alexandra led me through a family constellation and she did it with insight, skill, simplicity and love... I recommend your work to anyone seeking clarity. Alexandra led me through a family constellation and she did it with insight, skill, simplicity and love. Thank you for shedding further light on my situation, Alexandra, it's been very helpful to me. I recommend your work to anyone seeking clarity.

    Pearl Y. USA

    I will always be grateful for her dedication since there were days that it was challenging to speak and she had the patience and the right words. It took me years to find someone that I can trust about my personal life. I tried different therapists that only wanted to give me medication for my anxiety during the first session. However, Alejandra never give up on me and I was able to open myself about my childhood problems that I carried my whole life. I speak Spanish and English, but when I tried talking about my childhood in English, it was hard to express myself and finding someone that can speak Spanish was plus in my journey. I will always be grateful for her dedication since there were days that it was challenging to speak and she had the patience and the right words.

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    I've found each session to be profoundly moving... The time and experience has felt sacred to me. I've attended 3 sessions with Alejandra and Jay. I've found each session to be profoundly moving in a unique way. The time and experience has felt sacred to me, and that would not be possible without the care and supportive attention of the facilitators. I would recommend them to anyone interested in growth and prepared for a challenge.

    Trevor K. USA

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    Harry W. USA

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